Divorce-related relocation through children’s eyes: what children wish family judges knew: An interview study

Relocation cases are internationally regarded as among the most contentious in family law, requiring judges to balance competing interests. While the child’s best interests are widely accepted as paramount, what this entails in relocation cases remains debated. This study explores the lived experiences of 25 Dutch individuals who experienced divorce-related relocation within the Netherlands in their childhood, aiming to inform family law professionals – such as judges, lawyers, mediators, and social workers – about factors that could inform decision-making in relocation cases. Thematic analysis revealed four overarching themes: experiences of the relocation itself, perceived parental roles, reflections on current well-being, and advice for children and parents in similar situations. While each case requires individual assessment, the findings offer valuable implications for judicial decision-making. They highlight the diversity and complexity of these experiences, especially the perceived (lack of) involvement of children in decisions, the central role of peer relationships and support figures, the risks of parental conflict and domestic violence, and the importance of emotional and practical support. These perspectives may help professionals better understand the potential effects of relocation from a child’s point of view and support more nuanced, context-aware decisions in cases where children’s lives are significantly shaped by parental choices.